It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start. -Mother Teresa

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Please Do Laundry

I was going to try and write something witty about kids and dirty laundry. I tried but what I am about to say doesn't have any humor in it.

 I was trying to cover up my uncomfortableness. 
I can't.

Please take a look at this picture it was Di*na's only request on what she wanted to take back with her.

Are you familiar with this product? 
(I certainly wasn't.)

It is laundry soap. Di*na gets part of a bar issued to her each month from her orphanage. That is how she is able to hand wash her own clothes in the sink.

The day before she leaves, we take her to wal-mart to pick out whatever else she wants (we still had space in her suitcase) and she only picks three bars of laundry soap. I felt like someone had kicked me in the gut.

Today is a critical day for Christmas orphan hosting. The deadline to match with Ukrainian children (U-#'s) is TODAY (Thursday, November 1st), except for a few children who we will have another 10 days to match. The deadline to match with Latvian children (L-#'s) IS FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 2nd!!!
Could you please wash an orphan's laundry? 
I am serious. 
Please give a child (yes, even the littlest children was their own laundry after wearing it dirty for a week!) a break this Christmas from all the responsibility of being an orphan. It is just 4 weeks to you but to them it is the gift of a lifetime.

PS: Did I ever tell you that we hosted on the very last day with only hours left? We are planners and that was totally not our thing. So glad we stepped out of our comfort and norm. I encourage you to do the same.


  1. We are familiar with this soap as it is one of the ingredients in our home made laundry soap. As for making it her choice of items to take back with her...I say she is a very bright, practical young lady, ;) A trinket, toy, or material item is nice, but not very practical for where/how she lives. Smart young woman! Are you all staying in touch with her? Does she receive material goods you or others send to her through mail?

    1. Great questions, Carla. I have a few friends who make their own laundry soap - I may have to try sometime. :)

      New Horizons does a fundraiser in which the people who interview the orphans bring a ziplock bag of goodies to the previously hosted children. Other than that we have not been able to send her anything.

      We cannot send material items for several reasons. The first one being it is unlikely she would receive it due to theft either from the postal system itself or someone in the orphanage. But mainly because she would have to pay to pick up an item that was sent and she has no money. :(

      We can't send money because that would dangerous for her to have American funds - because people might hurt her to take it or because she may not use it wisely.

      She doesn't know English so we can cannot talk on the phone.

      She doesn't have access to internet (although many orphans do and have good communication with their host families.).

      I don't really have words to describe not being able to communicate with her.

  2. I have read your other posts about orphan hosting and it does strike my heart to the core. You are an amazing person to help like you have. The realities of our very privileged lives are a stark contrast to what other kids have to deal with in other parts of the world. It's sad you can't communicate with her. Can she get letters? Maybe you can find someone to translate a letter for you to send and who can translate what she sends? The U of I or any other university in central IL should know where you can find translators. You are an exceptional family.

    1. Great idea about the translator! We had looked into when she was here but stopped when the week before she left she changed preferred languages....long story that I will share sometime.

      We need to look into that again. Interestingly, the facebook page for host families someone shared a company that will deliver gifts. VERY EXPENSIVE but maybe worth a try. Thanks for the encouraging words and ideas!

  3. I agree-hard to be witty about a heart-rending subject like that! I just want some soap to do my laundry a little more often. sigh