It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start. -Mother Teresa

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Winter Hosting Day 25 & 26

These are our last two days at home.

The things they requested we buy on our last trip to Sam's Club. Yeah, that may be enough sour cream for their 4 remaining days. 

Michael and I both wrote our our life stories and had them translated. Good friends, who had adopted an older child internationally, suggested it to us. The few weeks that we have together isn't enough for the girls to really get to know us. Plus our history will one day be their history...Nan wasn't there for much of what was written either so she read it too. Later we had our friend, Alina, come to sit down and translate for us. For almost 4 hours we asked the girls questions about their life stories, their interests, their concerns, their hopes, their dreams, their favorites....and more. The girls could then ask us questions. We worked together to create a "Pro & Con" list of being adopted and living in our forever family. When they get back, there is going to be a lot of pressure for them to say "no" to adoption. First of all, it is scary to give up everything you have ever known and move to a place where you don't know the language. Second, there is A LOT of mistrust regarding adoption in their country. It is sort of a cultural thing that people cannot imagine why someone would want an orphan. They assume and spread the myth that it is so we can harvest their organs or use them as sex slaves. We spent time talking about the sacrifices they would have to make, acknowledging their two families, and making some plans on how we would cope with all the changes. Sadly we had to discuss that all of this could fall apart at any time. We let them know that until a judge says it is final, anything could happen. We assured them that we would do our best just like the visa situation. If something did happen, it was not because we changed our minds but rather because of one of our governments. We said so much more to each other so that after we were all emotionally exhausted. We are so blessed to have a Godly friend that is trusted by all four of us to help us with these conversations. 

The girls had a few requests of things they wanted to bring back to the orphanage. The main one: gloves. I put out a request on facebook and in less than an hour, friends had donated close to 100 pairs of gloves! (The other request was for toothpaste.) We also have some requests for gifts and donations to bring the orphanage when we go to get the girls. It makes this mama's heart happy to have two girls thinking of others!!! (And how blessed are we that friends helped make this possible? I have another request to share regarding recreation equipment.) 

Packing is a difficult thing in many different ways. It was on our "to do" list for two days but N2 kept erasing it. :(   The hosting organization gives us a list of things we must include and a list of things we are not allowed to include. We set up two long folding tables to organize. All that in staying within 50 lbs! Both our girls took back two blankets because they are so cold. :( 

Turns out that we were missing one blood test so we had to update some dossier paperwork. The girls got a glimpse into how tedious adoption paperwork is AND they got to see them take my blood. Turns out that everyone but JoJo is a little squimish! 

Trying to meet all the requests for "lasts". Last time at Sonic!


1 comment:

  1. My stomach feels all a flutter just reading this! Praying for a good last two days, through the farewells, and the waiting! What a season of life!!!!

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