It is easy to love the people far away. It is not always easy to love those close to us. It is easier to give a cup of rice to relieve hunger than to relieve the loneliness and pain of someone unloved in our own home. Bring love into your home for this is where our love for each other must start. -Mother Teresa
Wednesday, March 18, 2015
Adoption Q & A
Way back when we started our Facebook Page, I asked if any of you had questions we could answer in an upcoming blog post. I am finally answering those questions! Feel free to ask more questions and I will try to not take 5 months to answer them.
What are their ages?
I can't tell you here because we can't post specifics like ages and birthdays. But I can tell you that N1 is in high school and N2 is in junior high.
Why can't you tell us some stuff?
First of all, their country is understandably concerned about how it is perceived. It doesn't look good if a whole bunch of Americans post pictures of kids from this country and then talk about how they are helping the orphans. It looks like the country isn't taking care of its own. Second, it is about protecting the children and their information. And finally, though we doubt this would happen in our case, it is about avoiding drama. It is not unheard of for birth families to try and figure out who the adoptive family is to cause issues. Blackmail or even disruption of the adoption have happened.
I can leave giant clues and share information in different ways so some of you may have figured out some of these answers. Really what I am trying to do is avoid being found in a google search! For example, you know that we have hosted N2 before. You could easily check back to old blog posts and read about her. You would see her name with the vowels represented by *. (You want to go back and check those now, don't you???)
Compared to hosting, our adoption is much more public. We don't want people to inadvertently cause any issues by sharing on social media, so we are being extra cautious.
Why are you not showing us their faces?
They are horribly disfigured and disgusting. NO they aren't... "Just kidding!" as JoJo says a dozen times a day. Again, we are trying to protect the privacy of the girls because the blog and some adoption things are public and for the above reasons.
How long is the adoption process?
I wish that I knew! We are finally getting to the point in the process where we have a tentative timeline....in weeks! We still hope to travel in May on our first trip. Not sure if that will happen or not, but we will keep you posted as soon as we know.
When will they come to live with you permanently?
They will come home with us to live permanently on our third trip. Yes, three trips. The first trip is a quick one with just official appointments. Although we hope to spend a few hours with the girls if at all possible. After that trip, we will come home and wait for a Court Date. We will return for that date. There is a waiting period after that. We will return home until after the waiting period (Usually around 10 business days unless there are holidays.) We will officially have our "Gotcha Day" when we arrive on our third trip.
Are you homeschooling them too?
Good question and it has a long complicated answer that still doesn't really answer your question. I am just going to save that for another blog post! (Remind me though since it only took me months to answer these questions!)
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